How to make a hard decision, softly


Taking the first step to becoming clear on the direction of your life and what lies ahead for you

As we approach the end of the year, we start to settle on what we’ve achieved this year and where we want to be next year. The decisions on where we’d like to shift and move towards can sometimes be hard ones, and the steps we need to make to get there unclear.

We live in a world where we are faced with more choices and options than ever before, from what we want to order off the menu, to whether we should post that photo to Instagram to what we ultimately want to do with our days and how to live a life that is compatible with our most authentic self.

So how do you softly approach hard decisions and know what you need to do to get there?

Roy Disney said that “it’s not hard to make decisions, once you know what your values are” and it is from this place that we should aim to approach change and growth.

Once we are clear on what we truly value in life, our choices become easier and perhaps even black and white.

For example, if you are grappling whether to make a career move next year, rather than trying to find an answer - perhaps think about first getting clear on what job satisfaction, or more importantly - life satisfaction - looks like to you right now.

Defining where your values lie is the first step to becoming clear on the direction of your life and what lies ahead for you.

If we can identify the top five values that resonate most with us, we can use them to guide the decisions that we make on an everyday basis, ultimately leading to a more fulfilled and intentional life.

If you need inspiration identifying what your values are, think about when you’ve been at your happiest and what was important to you at the time. These can be anything from balance and control, to creativity, freedom and fun.

If we can identify those things that make us the happiest, and eliminate them down to a set of five core concepts - we know quite quickly what we need to do in our life to reflect these values.

Think of your values like a sieve, that every choice must run through and feed into.

To get you started, we’ve create a list of core values for you to use in this exercise. Take some time to quietly sit, meditate on when you are at your happiest, and go through the process of elimination with the below. Just remember that you can re-do your values as often as required (every 6 months is ideal, or when you go through a big life change), so just because something isn’t in your top five now - doesn’t mean that it’s not important to you. It just means that you’re a growing and evolving human, and what we all need and require shifts continuously. Your top five presents you right now, but this is an ever-evolving process.

  • Accountability
  • Achievement
  • Adventure
  • Altruism
  • Ambition
  • Assertiveness
  • Authenticity
  • Balance
  • Belonging
  • Calmness
  • Challenge
  • Commitment
  • Community
  • Compassion
  • Contentment
  • Contribution
  • Control
  • Courage
  • Creativity
  • Curiosity
  • Discipline
  • Diversity
  • Empathy
  • Excellence
  • Excitement
  • Expertise
  • Faith
  • Family
  • Fitness
  • Freedom
  • Fun
  • Generosity
  • Gratitude
  • Growth
  • Happiness
  • Health
  • Honestly
  • Independence
  • Integrity
  • Intelligence
  • Leadership
  • Legacy
  • Love
  • Loyalty
  • Openness
  • Ownership
  • Perfection
  • Positivity
  • Quality
  • Reputation
  • Selflessness
  • Self-reliance
  • Service
  • Simplicity
  • Spontaneity
  • Strength
  • Structure
  • Teamwork
  • Trust
  • Vision
  • Vitality
  • Wealth

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