It seems as we grow older it becomes more challenging to make new friends. And the friendships we do have slowly fade as we become busier with family and life commitments.
There are sandwiches packed for lunch, kids ferried to school, projects completed at work and that yoga session squeezed in. And before you know it the week is over and you arrive at Friday night exhausted and calling your friends to cancel on your monthly catch up.
All you can picture is a glass of red as you sink into the couch or a bubble bath once the kids are asleep... and even the desire for these soon fade as you collapse into bed, murmuring to yourself, ‘Tomorrow, I’ll take that bath tomorrow’.
As you drift off to sleep that twinge that something doesn’t feel right rises to the surface. The thought that soon your friends won’t recognise you or you them and that you’re losing yourself in the busyness of the everyday, weighs on you. You want something more… a deeper connection, a closeness where you can truly share your deepest truth.
More than a rushed conversation or quick coffee with friends; a quick kiss goodbye as you and your partner keep missing each other as you fly through your days; and a distracted walk around the block while you think about what next rather than soaking up the fresh air and the moment.
These scenarios are not unusual. Life is busier than ever before. The opportunities available to us is causing a near frenzy of needing to do more, be more and have more, without the happiness necessarily coming along with it.
What you may not realise is that this busyness is keeping you from deep connection; connection that we all crave and need.
We are forgetting our roots and our deepest need to connect to ourselves, to others, and the world around us.
It is in this connection that true wellness comes.
Emma Seppala, PhD, the Associate Director of Stanford School of Medicine’s The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, shares that “lack of social connection is a greater detriment to health than obesity, smoking, and high blood pressure.”
“On the flip side, strong social connection leads to a 50 percent increased chance of longevity,” she continues.
“Social connection strengthens our immune system, helps us recover from disease faster, and may even lengthen our life.”
True connection is more important than ever.
So, how to bring more connection into your life?
Acknowledging that you’re not feeling as connected as you would like is a great starting point.
Then deciding how you want to be more connected in life gives you direction to work towards. It’s not often that we give ourselves permission to really choose how we want our lives to be and this exercise in self-examination can really open up possibilities that we may not have noticed before.
Looking at connection with ourselves, our loved ones and friends and our community, all of these different connections are important.
From taking these two steps, you’ll have started a new course to bringing more connection into your life.
We all deserve to live our best lives filled with deep connection and wellness.