Coaching, followed by writing, has showed me what it is to feel at home and truly alive when it comes to my work in this world – and I’m reminded of this every single day.
Let me try and explain what happens to me when I coach.
Regardless of whatever it is I’ve been doing before I step into coaching, either physically or virtually, my mind and body disappear. I become an empty vessel into which my clients’ words and emotions wash, passing through me, before the right words bubble to the surface for me to share.
In part, this is built from years of experience, but mostly it comes from trusting what lies within. There’s no censoring or filtering to apply. No ‘what should I say here’ moments or ‘my, that’s a tough one’.
It’s as if my clients are waves breaking over me, enveloping me. It’s like I become one with them and can listen to what’s in their mind, body and soul. As the wave retreats back, we part momentarily. The words flow effortlessly out of me as we navigate our journey together, based around a deep, combined knowledge of who they are and what they truly desire.
For me, the core of coaching is not doing, it is being. It’s absolutely an art, not a science. That’s not to say that tools and techniques don’t have their place and aren’t hugely important (I geekishly love them), but they have to be guided by the core, the treasures within.
Writing is the same.
When I was recently asked by a friend what my process for writing was, I was perplexed. I couldn’t articulate it. This seemed absurd as I write all the time and I love it! I grappled for words and talked jibberish.
There is no process. The words are in my soul. They have been deeply planted within me and when I connect deeply with my soul, they pour out onto the page without any consciousness. Again, this is the core of writing: being.
Explaining this to my procedure-driven friend was a tough one, but it really is my ‘process’. Writing and coaching are home for me:
- Finding the treasure I have been blessed with and courageously bringing it unfiltered into the world
- Nurturing a soul-based connection, both with myself and another
- Being totally absorbed: no doubts, no sense of time, no distractions, no ego
- Being open to, curious about and at peace with what is
- When we find the treasures within and bring them fully and courageously into the world, in whatever way reflects who we truly are, we find our career home.
And trust me, when you take up residence there, you will never want to leave.
Michelle McCartan is a coach, a writer and leadership consultant. Her deeply compassionate approach to helping others unearth their true self and find their true work has touched the lives of hundreds of clients from all over the world, from CEOs and MDs to new and aspiring thought leaders, entrepreneurs, creatives, and new mums. She’s the author of two personal development books, The Journey of Me and Inspiration Quotient (INQ) and the co-founder of Wellineux. She is a certified Leadership Coach and qualified Holistic Health Coach. She brings her extensive professional expertise, her firsthand familiarity with her own personal challenges and journey home, and her flexible, empathic nature to her every engagement and interaction, so that every client she serves feels witnessed, seen, and honoured for who they innately are.