Making self-love the start of all love
By the time Valentine's Day rolls into the commercial occasions calendar, there is a lot of talk and presence on our feeds about the concept of love and it’s associated gifts. It’s easy to roll our eyes at such an occasion, but a celebration of love should be a time to reflect on our most loving relationship of all—the one we have with ourselves.
Self-love comes in many different forms and there is no way to formulate how each individual practices self love. Think about what makes you truly happy? When do you feel most content? And what activities feel indulgent or special in your routine?
Knowing this, enables us to better navigate our relationships with others, and like the time-old saying goes, in order to love another, we must first love ourselves.
Like anything that we want to become better at, self-love is a dedicated practice. It’s about carving time out in your schedule, that is dedicated to just you. Sometimes it can take as much as diary-dating yourself as a reminder, or telling people that you’re on a plan-ban during this period— once this time is established and set aside, you’ll quickly see the benefits and it will be easier to make it routine.
The best way to start a self-love schedule is to trial different rituals to see which one fits best with your life, and remember that you can always mix them up as dependant upon your schedule and energy levels. Perhaps it could be as simple as turning off the TV tonight to replace it with 30 minutes of self-pampering, or maybe you could block out the whole day on the weekend to wander the world without any plans or deadline. Work out what makes you feel best, and make time to do that often.
Developing a loving relationship with your own-self and body, not only increases your mental clarity, energy and confidence, it also allows us to give the best versions of ourselves to others. By filling our own cup, we have more to offer the world.
Six products to inspire your next self-love session:
Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less - need help carving out time for self-love in your calendar? This book is for you.
The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living - Hygge (pronounced Hoo-ga) is a cornerstone of Danish Life and can be explained as the sensation you get when you’re cuddled up on a sofa, in cozy socks under a soft throw, during a storm. It’s self-love epitomised. Read this one on a lazy Sunday morning in bed with a cup of tea.
Dailyblooms - There is nothing quite like coming home to fresh flowers for ultimate feel-good vibes, so why wait for someone else to buy them for you? Services such as Dailyblooms allow you to subscribe to a daily, weekly, or monthly bunch of flowers, delivered to your door - ensuring that a gesture of self-love and appreciation are built into your regular routine.
Pause + Breathe Mindful Mandala Colouring Book - Colouring is a great way to practice the art of not having an outcome, of creating something beautiful just because. Most people find colouring incredibly therapeutic and the perfect act of self-dedication.
Frank Body Scrub - there is something incredibly indulgent about body scrubs, this one in particular. The physical sensation of the grind and aroma of coffee feels like a spa, massage and detoxification, all at the same time.
Perfect Potion Wooden Diffuser - Essential oils have an amazing effect on the mind and body, and sometimes just a change in scent can uplift your mood and feel like a gesture of self-worth.